Tuesday, September 14, 2010

Anal Sex.. Go in or Keep Out?

If I asked you “Do you think all hookers have anal sex with their clients?” what would you say? If I had been asked that question 10yrs ago, I would have answered “Of course they do!”, but let me tell you, this is not the case. I do not provide anal services and I am a sex worker!

Why, you might ask? I havent yet conquered anal sex in my personal life. I have had anal sex once in my life! It was about 8yrs ago. Anal sex scares me LOL.

Because I lost my virginity at 16yrs old and I really had hoped to save it for marriage, I decided, seeing I couldn’t give my husband my punani (vagina/pussy) virginity, I would give him my ass! Sure I had a few boys try to stick their finger in there, but I don’t know, the poo factor, it always came into my head. Ewwwww what if he touches poo? What if he gets angry cos there is poo? Yeah, no, I was not into it one little bit LOL. Ewwwwww

So, I had been with SM for a few years and he knew I was saving my ass. We were having regular sex one day, in the spoon position (he was behind me and we were on our sides).. I was kinda really into it, so um, yeah, I was pretty wet..at one point he kinda pulled out all the way, and when he went in again, it was the wrong hole…but he wasn’t going fast and he wasn’t very big and it was gentle and it kinda just slid into my butt. I kinda tensed up and said “Go slow ok” and he did.. It felt different, good, but my head couldn’t get around it.. And then after 3mins or so, it started to hurt, so I told him to stop.. He rolled over, had a wank and blew all over himself. I curled up to him after he was done and said “Well I guess you’re guna have to marry me now”.. he looked at me with a blank expression.. “Um you know, I always said, im saving my ass for my husband?” he looked at me again and then said “Fuck are you serious? I thought something felt different!” HE HAD NO IDEA HE WAS FUCKING MY ASS!!
I didn’t know whether to be insulted or what! Does that mean I have a loose asshole? How could he not know the difference?????

For the next 3days, my ass felt weird. It felt kinda uncomfortable and like I needed to poo constantly. I felt violated. That’s the best way to describe it.

And that was it! My first and only encounter of the anal kind! Woohoo! Oh and no, SM and I did not get married lmao. We broke up 3yrs later.

Every man since then that has come into my life, from the start has known, NO ANAL WITH ME! Off limits, out of bounds, no entry, one way street, blah blah blah. That’s clients and men in my private life. But lately, maybe in the last 12months, my mind is becoming more open to anal sex. I have been reading up on it, looking up shit on the internet, tryin to gain knowledge on how to do it right and without pain. The problem with this tho, now I have seen the REALLY bad things that can happen from anal sex.. Anal prolapse is one of my worst nightmares. Have you seen that shit? Holy crap.. Its not pretty. Ive heard of ass tears, stitches in ass… omg I have had nightmares lol but I still have an open mind about it.

I see the pornos, I see girls having anal sex and really enjoying it..and im curious. I want to experience that. I know it can be good, because briefly it did feel ok…..but….. Poo!

One thing I have learnt from my research, is there is a lot of trust involved and I met someone that I trust - SML, and that is what spiked my interest in the anal situation again. All these years ive been dead set against it, but something feels right.. Maybe it’s the timing, im not sure. So I thought, if I was going to even attempt to put a cock in my ass, I should kinda start small..and I went to an Adult store and got some anal supplies. I got anal beads, an anal flexible vibrator, an enema and a set of 3 butt plugs, ranging from small to huge! My thought process was, if I could do these things alone, id be more comfortable doing it around someone else.

I tried a few things out. It was weird. The butt plugs were too much, I didn’t try them, but the others I did and it was different. I had no idea what I was doing lol. I didn’t really say much to SML about it, very basic and brief, I was kinda embarrassed. I felt shy bringing it up..and over time I think we both forgot about it. I stopped trying to get my ass used to foreign objects and all talk of it was out the window. But it has kinda reappeared again..

I don’t understand it, but I want to do it. I want to do it for myself and I want to do it with SML. He is the first man ive felt good about doing it with. But im scared. Im scared that its going to hurt, im scared that im going to embarrass myself, im scared he will laugh at my inexperience (even tho I know he isn’t like that and would never humiliate me) im scared that my ass will prolapse and never go back the same, im scared that there will be poo on him, im scared that I might only be able to do it for a few minutes and then it might be an anti-climax for him, im scared im scared im scared.

But I still really want to do it.

Its all kinda technical too. You cant just BAM have anal sex.. You gotta warm the ass up and build up to sex.. Its all a long process, it loses all its romance doesn’t it? I don’t see how it will be sexy and hot.

But I still really want to do it.

The poo factor.. My head has trouble getting around that and yes of course I know, you have to make sure you clean it out well, but I don’t really know how to even do that right yet lol!

But I still really want to do it.

I guess when the time is right it will happen for me. SML isn’t pushy about it and that is good, I know when it happens it will be safe, as gentle as possible, cos there is no way he would ever want to hurt me. I have found the right person to do it with but maybe just not the right time..

Is anal sex on your list of “fun things to do”? Are you a one way street person or are you enjoying it on a regular basis? Are you curious? Do you worry about poo? LOL

If I conquered the anal thing and got used to it, would I include that in my service with my clients? No.. I cant see it being something I would do on a regular basis. Im thinking I will save that for SML.If he is willing to wait around and go thru the trial and error with me, the embarrassing moments, I think the least I can do is keep it for him… or my husband LOL


  1. here ya go - this might help ;) - @ohdeannav2


  2. Ooo thank you x x i will have to check that out :)

  3. Bummer is all I have to say!

  4. Definitely on my "fun to do list"

    The poo factor isn't really an issue - it doesn't enter the lower colon until the last minute - and always use a rubber and it's no issue.

    Best advice I can offer is, the first time you do it, make sure your partner makes you come first. It will help relax you (as it did when you were having sex the first time) and the endorphins will help any discomfort.

    If it's done slowly, and properly, it shouldn't hurt - if you do it with you on top, you can control the angle and speed much better.

  5. Best tip I can give is right when he's about to go in, take a deep breath and release it slowly. It's the difference between going in like your a pro & not going in and hurting.

    Oh and maybe have a wine or 15 girl you STRESS TO MUCH!!!

  6. BTW pmsl! I bet you didn't even realise you wrote this "I have been reading up on it, looking up shit on the internet" A post about Anal sex and your stressing about poo and then you mention your looking up shit on the internet! Priceless!

  7. lol thank you for your comments.. breathe in ay? hmmmm... maybe that could help but still lol... yes i know i stress too much.. but what can ya do! lol

  8. God designed that this happen in a safe and committed context of love and devotion. According to the maker, this is where sex is at its best.